Have you ever been through a breakup and are you worried that you will get bad karma for breaking someone’s heart? No matter how you feel about your breakup and the relationship you had before it broke up, let me tell you something. Your relationships create Karma. All relationships create Karma. There is a very good chance that you are with the person you are with now (or were with last) because of some Karma that you had to work out with him.
I can only speak from experience and I share my real-life example of how Karma works in relationships below the next section, so keep reading.
Is Karma Real In Relationships?
Karma is real and a huge factor in all romantic relationships as well as in work relationships, relationships within the family, and also with friends. You are with the person you are with because of the Karma that you have to work out with each other. Once the bad Karma is worked out, you’ll either part ways or have peace and harmony in your relationship. The same goes for family, friends, and work relationships.
If you’re wondering whether cheaters get their Karma, the answer is yes, they do. The most common ways that cheaters pay for their Karma is outlined in this post. Even if you’re the one who cheated, you will have to pay for your Karma.
Real Example Of How Karma Works In Relationships
So, I once dated a guy. He was a really good guy and I loved him a lot. It was the kind of love that cracked my heart open and it was the first time that my love for another human being brought me to tears. But then, I grew older and wanted new experiences and wanted to hang out with new people so I broke that good guy’s heart and we parted ways.
Thanks to Karma, 10 years later he is back in my life but it’s not really him. This time, I AM him. And someone else is doing to me all the things that I did to him long ago.
That’s how Karma works. It gives you a chance to square up for everything you have done to others by enduring the same treatment yourself.
Is Karma Real In Love?
Karma is real in love and also in heartbreak. When you break someone’s heart, you create a lot of Karma. When you are irresistibly attracted to someone, like love at first sight, it is because of the Karmic attraction you have for each other. Karma is also real in non-romantic love relationships, like with best friends, friends at work, family members, and in-laws.
The good news is that you can work out your Karma very fast because we’re in Kali Yuga at the moment.
Karma in Kali Age
According to the Vedic scriptures and the yoga tradition, we are in Kali Yuga at the moment. Yuga means age, and Kali is the age that is charactarized by time being sped up, human lives being shorter and a lot more things happening in a lot less time. I think this applies to our Karma as well. Instead of doing someone wrong and not having to pay for it till your next life or next incarnation, in this age, you pay in one lifetime for most things.
In the case of the really nice guy who I hurt 10 years ago, I had the chance to experience what I put him through by being put in his shoes. And the thing is, I have been in the “heartbreaker’s” shoes as well, and I can’t even be angry at that person. I know that there is no other way.
There was no other way for me to have behaved back then and that’s why when it happened to me, I had to sit back and observe the identical situation from the flip side.
When you finally stop dating the same guy over and over again, you end up dating yourself.
A former version of you turns up in your life for you to learn a lesson from. I suppose it’s kind of like when you become a parent and finally realize how much of a brat you were to your mom and dad. Karma in relationships allows that to happen a little sooner.
Is Karma A Real Thing In My Relationships?
Still not sure whether Karma is real in your relationships? Here are my top resources that will show you exactly how all your relationships are affected by your good and bad Karma. You’ll also learn how to get rid of your bad Karma, create good Karma, and heal your relationships.
- The best book on Karma you’ll ever read – Karmic Diagnostics by Marjan Ogorevc
- This book changed my whole understanding of how Karma works in our day-to-day lives. It will tell you how Karma is responsible for your constant heartbreaks, why you can’t find the right partner, why you are having problems in your family relationships, and what to do about it. I can’t recommend this book enough but it has a very limited print run. Grab a copy for yourself before it’s sold out.
- Karma when it comes to having kids and starting a family – Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen
- When you’re in a true love relationship, the idea of getting married and having kids is the first thought on your mind. Your Karma, as well as the Karma of your partner and future child, might be stopping you (or him) from committing and also from wanting to have kids or having problems with getting pregnant. This book will help you understand if your partner is really the one you should have a baby with. It will also help you understand your spiritual and Karmic connection with your future baby.
- How to end Karmic relationships
- When a relationship is only causing you pain, it is time to end it without creating even more Karma. In this post, I tell you the exact steps that you can take to end a Karmic love relationship easily.
How to deal with Karma For Breaking Someone’s Heart
I wrote a whole post about this but in short, my advice here is not to freak out. You may feel like a mean, old version of you has turned up to hurt and get even with the current version you. I don’t believe it’s about Karma getting even with you. I believe that it is simply a way for you to find empathy for the one you hurt before. It is simply to feel love for them, feel their pain and most importantly, to love yourself anyway despite what you have done in the past.
Love yourself anyway.
Your actions in the past were inevitable. Those actions were destined. Just be at peace with what you did in the past no matter how many hearts you broke. You have probably experienced, first hand, what it felt like to those people when their hearts were broken. If you haven’t, you probably will soon.
Just accept it.
Just love, yourself, anyway.
If you don’t know how, start with treating yourself to a manicure. And meditation always helps when you want a more lasting kind of self-love.
With my love and acceptance,
Originally published April 22, 2015. Updated May 22, 2020.