If you’ve ever felt an irresistible and unexplainable instant connection with someone, you might have asked yourself, “Is this is a Karmic connection?”
This has happened to me on multiple occasions, both in casual relationships like a one-night stand (that turned into a few months of dating) and also in serious relationships (that ended up becoming 4-5 year affairs.) It has also happened in friendships, so I have some experience when it comes to identifying Karmic connections.
So, what does it mean to have a Karmic connection with someone?
You will know that you have a Karmic connection with someone when that connection is instant. Most often, it is an instant and unexplainable attraction towards each other, although sometimes it can also be an instant dislike between each other. It feels like the connection was always there, even before you met each other. You feel like you know each other for a long time already even though you just met.
In case it is an instant dislike between each other, this can also be a Karmic connection. This person has come into your life to help you burn Karma that you owe him or her from a past life, or to learn an important Karmic lesson. I explain both positive and negative Karmic connections below and share my personal stories of both types of connections below so keep reading.
Why Do People Have Karmic Connections?
People have Karmic connections so they can pay back Karmic debt that they owe each other from past lives or to enjoy the fruits of positive Karma they have with each other.
If it’s negative Karmic debt that they have to pay back, then the relationship that is extremely passionate but at the same time, extremely stressful. A negative Karmic connection is filled with excessive emotional highs and lows and is difficult to maintain.
If it is positive Karmic debt or Karmic credit (also known as Punya) that brought you together then the Karmic connection leads to a relationship that is harmonious and easy and can turn into a long-term relationship that is effortless to maintain.
Such a connection can help you find your Karmic soulmate and help you recognize the right life partner.
Do You Have a Negative Karmic Connection With Someone?
I have personally had two intense negative Karmic connections that taught me a lot. The first one was in high school.
I had just started at a new school in Toronto for my final year of high school and joined the student life committee. There was a girl in the committee who I instantly hated. Hate is a strong word but I truly felt repulsed by her.
I had no reason to dislike her. She hardly ever spoke to me directly. There was just something about her that got under my skin. Eventually, she did start to undermine me in front of everyone, and in one meeting, I openly started shouting at her asking “What’s wrong with you? Why are you after me?”
Looking back, my behavior was a little bit embarrassing but I don’t regret it. I had no other way to act at that moment.
The point is that I disliked her for no apparent reason. This is the strongest sign that it was a negative Karmic connection.
Knowing what I know about Karma now, I realize that she was simply mirroring my own insecurities back at me. That’s why she triggered me so much. In fact, she was much more insecure than me and that’s why I lashed out at her.
The second person I had a negative Karmic connection with was an old boss.
The moment she joined my company, I found myself in a weird situation. For the first time in my life, I couldn’t respect my boss. This was unusual for me because growing up in a South Asian culture, (I was born in Bangladesh and raised in India until age 13) you automatically respect elders and people in positions of authority higher than you.
Even though I tried my best to work together, I kept making strange subconscious decisions that pissed her off more and more. For example, once I completely forgot that we had a 1:1 meeting and stayed out for lunch so long that I missed the meeting altogether. This was obviously not OK with my boss. Then, I kept doing a “good enough” or sub-par job in my tasks and not going above and beyond in my work. It’s not like I didn’t try to do well, but my definition of a good job and hers were simply not matching up.
This was extremely frustrating for both of us.
What tells me that was a negative Karmic connection is that no matter how much I tried, I just could not bring myself to respect her. She was really good at her job, so why couldn’t I look up to her and try to learn something? There’s no explanation except that it was an old negative Karmic relationship.
Finally, after a year of trying to make it work, she eventually found a way to fire me from the company. This was my first time getting fired and if you’ve ever been fired from a job you loved, then you know how traumatic this can be.
I was completely traumatized.
It took me 6 months to bounce back and find a new job.
Even to this day and even though I live in a different country now, I get scared when I see someone that looks like her on the street because I don’t want to be face to face with her ever again.
This trauma is the final clear sign that I needed to know for sure that this is a negative Karmic connection. I must have had some Karmic debt to pay back to her and in this life, she certainly made me pay.
Where do I go from here? How do I heal this trauma?
How To Heal Trauma From Negative Karmic Connections
The best way I know how to heal trauma from a negative Karmic connection is to look at your life at the present moment and be grateful for what you have. If I ran into my old boss on the street, I’d be shocked and afraid of her because of how I was fired, but I think I’d be able to have a conversation with her instead of running away as I actually did once in the past.
Despite how cold-heartedly I was fired, I now recognize the part I played in this happening to me. Even though I may never admit this to my old boss, I know in my heart that I didn’t deliver for the company what it needed and it’s natural that the entire company needed to move on so it could get what it needed from someone else.
It’s kind of like this romantic relationship I had in high school. We simply wanted different experiences and different outcomes from one another.
How To Identify A Romantic Karmic Connection?
The biggest sign that it is a romantic Karmic connection is that it’s an instant and unexplainable attraction towards each other. It can be an instant sexual attraction or a friendly attraction. Either way, it feels like you know each other from before even though you just met for the first time. You want to spend more time together and the thought of separating from each other already feels painful.
I talk more about this in my post about Karmic Attraction.
Romantic Karmic connections quickly develop into intense relationships and how long they last depend on the Karmic debt you have with each other.
My Karmic connection ended up becoming my husband. I share the whole story in this video below.
Another way to tell whether it is a Karmic connection is that getting to know each other feels magical and being together is completely effortless. You can feel free to be yourself and reveal your deepest fears to each other.
This continues even after years of being together. The relationship is successful when both people can accept each other knowing all the weaknesses, triggers, and “shadows” of each other.
Do You Have A Karmic Connection With Someone?
Now it’s your turn. I would love to hear if you had a Karmic connection with someone and how it was for you. Was it negative or positive? Are you still with this person or did you break up? Was it with a romantic partner, a coworker or boss, or a friend? Share your story below in the comments section.