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How To Get Rid Of Bad Karma, Fast


Do you feel like you have bad Karma from breaking someone’s heart? Or maybe you feel like you have bad Karma because you are constantly attracting the wrong kinds of people into your lives. Maybe it’s a boyfriend with performance anxiety or a friend that treats you badly or manipulates you, or you are getting bullied at work.

Why do all these bad things keep happening to you? Could it be because you have a lot of bad Karma stored in your Karmic bank account?

The good news is that you can get rid of your bad Karma, fast. The five best ways are:

  1. Say sorry for hurting someone in the past.
  2. Take responsibility for what you did and put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
  3. Journal and self-reflect so you can stop yourself from making Karmic mistakes.
  4. Make a plan to do it differently next time. I give clear step-by-step instructions below so keep reading.
  5. Practice specific Karmic cleaning meditations listed below.

All of these steps have worked for me to clean up my Karma FAST and they will for you as well. Thanks to Kali Yuga, the yogic era that we’re in right now, Karma can be burnt very fast. The only thing you need to do is take the right action.

How Do You Know If You Have Bad Karma

Sometimes bad things keep happening to you even if you’re a good person and you can’t figure out why. Some clear signs that it could be because of your bad Karma are that you keep attracting bad people into your life who hurt you purposely or unconsciously.

Your relationships will give you the first clue about your good or bad Karma.

For example, being cheated on is a sign that you have bad Karma from a past life or a past relationship in this life. Another example is being bullied at work, or a friend who treats you badly or manipulates you.

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Some other signs that you have bad Karma are:

  1. Difficulty maintaining a relationship
  2. Feeling negative and hopeless
  3. Wanting to take revenge on someone
  4. Wanting to intentionally hurt someone or “make someone pay”
  5. Lack of money
  6. Not feeling abundant
  7. Difficulty making friends

What Causes Bad Karma?

Wanting To “Make Them Pay”

The irony is that wanting to hurt someone or “make them pay” is not only a sign that you have bad Karma, it also creates more bad Karma. It’s so important that you recognize the signs within yourself ASAP and take action so you don’t cause more bad Karma.

If you have the feeling that someone should pay for hurting you, like an ex for example, then the best thing to do is to leave it in Karma’s hands. Don’t plan on getting revenge or keep wishing the other person also suffers.

Remember, Karma never loses an address and has infinite patience. The other person will eventually get back what they gave you, so just let Karma do its thing. Use your time to work on yourself and burn your own Karma in healthier ways.

Having Ill Intentions

Another quick way that you rack up bad Karma is by having ill intentions. Whether that’s towards another person, or a business, or an institution. Wishing that someone else suffers will create bad Karma for you. So, watch your thoughts carefully. If feelings like these come up, the best thing to do is just be indifferent. If someone else is doing “better” than you, then so what? Let them. Your good fortune is coming soon. Don’t get jealous and wish them ill.

Not Taking Responsibility

Avoiding taking responsibility for your actions will cause bad Karma as well as being insensitive and arrogant. This often happens subconsciously and we don’t realize that we were insensitive to someone until it’s too late. Yes, the damage is done and the bad Karma is now stored in your Karmic bank account, but it’s possible to turn this around. I share how this works down below, so keep reading.

Wanting To See Others Get Hurt

This one sounds extremely cruel but enjoying hurting others or seeing others getting hurt creates a lot of bad Karma.

Judging Others

Judging and talking bad behind people’s backs is another big one that creates bad Karma. My spiritual teacher once said that judging others creates more bad Karma than murder because it’s how we create separation between ourselves and others. Instead, we can focus on the oneness between us and put ourselves in the other person’s shoes.

What To Do If You Have Bad Karma

There are simple ways you can get rid of your bad Karma, fast. Simple doesn’t necessarily mean easy. However, with a few steps, you can make huge progress very quickly.

Say Sorry In Your Heart

The first way to cleanse your Karma for hurting someone in the past is by saying sorry in your heart. I wrote a whole post on this so read it and take action.

Click the image to read the post on how to say sorry for breaking someone’s heart.

Take Responsibility

Taking responsibility for what you did and putting yourself in the other person’s shoes is another way to cleanse your bad Karma. When you do this, you automatically feel the pain that you caused someone. If you don’t do it, then Karma will eventually get you to do it because Karma always comes back. I share a personal story of how this happened to me in this video.

Self-reflection and Journaling

Self-reflection and journaling are great ways to dissolve your bad Karma. Why? Because it forces you to look at yourself and examine your actions. Then the natural next step is that you will take responsibility for your actions.

This ties into the next point of making a plan to do it differently next time.

Plan To Do It Differently Next Time

The next time you’re in a crisis, whether it’s a fight with your partner or a difficult situation with your boss at work, identify the level of your crisis and acknowledge it.

  1. Acknowledging that this is really hard for you is the first step.
  2. Immediately leave the situation if possible and feel.
    1. Give yourself space to think and more importantly to feel. Feel in your body where it hurts. Yes, the pain is emotional, but the experience of the pain is often in the body. Let your body tell you, does it hurt in your heart? Or in your gut? Or in your throat, because you’re choking on your tears?
  3. Grab your journal and write down what you’re going through in the present moment. Don’t go into past dramas or future anxieties. Writing it down will help you get to the next step.
  4. Take a decision.
    1. Now that you’ve taken the time to feel the intensity of your pain, make a decision on how you are going to act.
    2. Take into consideration your triggers and your tendencies. For example, my tendency in any difficult situation is to run away from it. In the last big fight I had with my partner, I literally was planning to buy a train ticket and leave town for 24 hours. Wanting to run away is something I’m trying to overcome so in the end, I decided not to leave but to force myself to stay and work on our problem together. It took an hour or so and few tears and humble “sorry’s” but we worked it out quickly. Now, I’m so glad that I didn’t get on that train and leave.
    3. Once you make a decision, you can finally stop going in circles in your mind and rehashing the problem over and over.
    4. Once you make up your mind, you get your power back.
    5. In this state, you’re much less likely to make any mistakes or hurt someone’s feelings that will end up creating bad Karma for you.
  5. Practice specific Karmic cleansing meditations and therapies listed below.
    1. The final step that I can personally recommend from experience is doing specific meditations that help to burn your Karma. I’m talking about very powerful techniques here, and not just some free stuff you download or follow on YouTube.
    2. Try Family Constellation Therapy to dissolve your Karma.

Atma Kriya Yoga And Karma

The best meditation that I have ever tried and I know from first-hand experience that it burns Karma fast is Atma Kriya Yoga. It has helped me to get over my commitment phobia within two years (which is a very short time because for most people it takes decades and countless relationship mistakes). It has helped me to clean up my diet and maintain a healthy weight.

Above all, Atma Kriya Yoga has helped me to make huge spiritual progress. I can wholeheartedly recommend it as a spiritual practice. The fact that it burns Karma is simply a bonus.

If you want a free taster on the basics of Atma Kriya Yoga, take my free meditation course.

Family Constellation Therapy And Karma

This form of therapy is relatively new and sort of a secret in the healing world. But don’t let that fool you about how powerful it is. Family Constellation Therapy changed my life 180 degrees and helped me completely heal my commitment phobia, my financial situation, and helped me to find my husband and conceive my son. It is a part of my personal healing journey and I am still participating in seminars whenever I can.

This is a powerful technique and it will clear your Karma fast! Give it a try and let me know in the comments what your experience was like.

Do Others Get Bad Karma For Hurting You

Yes, others will get bad Karma for hurting you. Simply put, they will get back exactly the same kind of pain that they caused you. Until they realize the connection between hurting you and their own suffering, they will keep suffering. That’s simply how Karma works.

Scroll down for my most popular posts that will tell you exactly how Karma gets someone back for hurting you. But before you go read them, tell me your story in the comments below.

Why are you scared that you might have bad Karma? What happened? What did you do or what was done to you that makes you feel this way? Maybe you’re actually innocent. Or maybe some other readers or I can help you see a different perspective on the situation. I can’t wait to read your story.

Resources that will tell you exactly how Karma gets someone back for hurting you:

Bad Karma For Breaking Someone’s Heart
Do Cheaters Get Their Karma?
Will Karma Get My Ex For Hurting Me?
20 Relationship Karma Quotes That Will Make You Feel Good

Do Cheaters Get Their Karma?


If you’ve ever been cheated on, like me, then I’m sure you’ve asked yourself this question. And if you’ve been the one who has cheated on someone (which I’m not proud to admit, but I’ve also done)? Then you really want to know the answer to this: Do cheaters get their Karma?

The fact is that yes, cheaters do get their Karma. You can be sure that if someone has cheated on you, they will get their Karma very soon. If you cheated on someone, you can also expect to Karmically pay for it sooner or later. How a cheater gets their Karma back varies from situation to situation but a few things are standard:

  • Karma will make sure that a cheater realizes his/her mistake
  • When Karma catches up to them, a cheater will genuinely feel sorry about cheating
  • A cheater will also get cheated on unless they realize their mistake and feel sorry about it
  • The person being cheated on Karmically plays a part in being cheated on
  • The cheater and the person being cheated on can both be free of their Karma by following certain steps that are listed below

When someone cheats on you, they and the person who they are cheating on you with create a lot of Karma. They will have to pay back for this Karma, whether they like it or not. What type of Karma do they create and how will they pay it back? I talk about many of these below as well as what to do if you’re the one who cheated, so keep reading.

How Do Cheaters Get Their Karma?

The most obvious way that cheaters get their Karma is by being cheated on. Maybe the person they cheated on you with will end up cheating on them. Or maybe it will be a partner they least expected to cheat who hurts them. This will make them think back to how they have done the same thing to you and they will realize their mistake and feel sorry for it. For them to finally start to resolve their Karma for cheating on you, they have to genuinely feel sorry and feel bad about how they treated you. Unless they are narcissistic or in denial, being cheated on will bring them to this realization.

If they still don’t realize their mistake after being cheated on themselves, then Karma has other ways to make them realize it. For example, they will be cheated in a business deal or by a friend and maybe even be cheated out of money. One painful situation that I have personally experienced is when someone pretended to be my friend, gained my trust, and convinced me to give them thousands of dollars, but in reality, they were only manipulating me.

Cheaters who don’t realize their mistake for cheating can’t escape their Karma. There’s a quote that says, Karma never loses an address. They will keep paying for their Karma until they make the connection between their own suffering and pain and the pain they caused you. They will attract partners who also cheat on them or who just want to use them to satisfy their own physical and emotional needs.

Eventually, they will find it hard to attract anyone at all. Even when they think that they are being honest and trustworthy, people will see through it and start avoiding any serious relationship with them. All of their accumulated Karma will keep people at a distance and they will start to feel lonely. This is how Karma works. It brings you to a point that’s so painful that you have no choice but to look at your own actions and do something about them.

Will My Ex Who Cheated On Me Ever Apologize?

You might be wondering whether your ex who cheated on you will ever apologize to you for hurting you. To be honest, this will most likely not happen. Cheaters are usually too proud to admit that they did something so drastically wrong. They are also embarrassed about it because deep down inside, they know they did something wrong. So, don’t expect to get an email or text from your ex saying, “Hey, by the way, I cheated on you years ago. I’m sorry.”

Sometimes a cheater will actually blame you for their cheating. They may use some phrases like “We are both responsible for this situation.” They may blame you for being absent or unavailable or make some other accusation. If this happened to you then just don’t take it upon yourself. Yes, Karmically you played a part in being cheated on but the cheater is responsible for his or her decision to cheat. More on this below so keep on reading.

When Do Cheaters Apologize?

Usually, a cheater will apologize when they want you back or are afraid of letting you go. Have you ever received such an apology? How did it make you feel? I’d love to hear the story so please share in the comments section.

From hearing other people’s stories and reading dozens of threads on Reddit, it may feel good to receive an apology but it doesn’t really resolve any of the painful feelings. Sometimes it takes a cheater years before they come to the point of saying sorry. Being contacted by a cheater and getting a “sorry” after so many years might just annoy you and not bring any closure at all. You can be sure of one thing though. They are apologizing for themselves and to lighten their own guilt. They are not doing it for you.

Your Karmic Role In Being Cheated On

If you’ve been cheated on and are wondering what could you have possibly done to deserve this, then the answer might lie in your Karma. It was your Karma to experience what it’s like to be cheated on. Why? Maybe knowingly or unknowingly you hurt someone and made them feel cheated in some way. Maybe you were not completely honest with someone and this is how Karma helped you to understand the meaning of honesty and integrity. Maybe you cheated on your ex in a past life and this is your way or paying back your Karma.

I’ll share a personal story about how I played a part in someone’s Karmic lesson about cheating. As I mentioned before I have cheated on someone in the past and I’m not proud of it. In fact, I went to therapy about my guilt and my heavy feelings about cheating. In my therapy session with the gifted healer Michaela Bisch, we discovered that it was my ex’s destiny to experience and overcome being cheated on. I simply showed up to give him this experience. Through this experience, he learned and grew and eventually attracted another partner who was a better fit for him. And I overcame my tendency to cheat.

If you have a tendency to cheat, then this video will help you.

How To Fix Your Bad Karma From Cheating (And Being Cheated On)

If you’re worried that you have bad Karma and that’s why you keep getting cheated on, then there is hope. You can take certain steps to work through your Karma quickly so that you won’t keep getting hurt by cheaters over and over again.

  1. Have ZERO tolerance for cheating and being lied to. As soon as you find out that you were cheated or were lied to, take an immediate stand against it. If your lifestyle allows it, cut the cheater and/or lier out of your life immediately. If you suddenly start receiving calls and messages from the cheater’s friend asking you at least to hear them out, then you have to be extra careful because they are using their friend circle to manipulate you even more. This is where you need to move on to the next step.
  2. Set and protect your boundaries. Even if your lifestyle doesn’t allow you to separate from the cheater and lier right away, you must set your boundaries clearly. Here’s an exercise that really helped me to set a strong impenetrable boundary against someone that cheated me in the past.
    1. Hold up your hand as if you’re saying STOP!
    2. Imagine the cheater is standing in front of you and you are physically keeping them an arm’s length away.

If you’re a cheater and are worried about your bad Karma from hurting someone, then my post on this topic has lots of tips on how to fix your bad Karma. To summarize, the quickest ways to fix your bad Karma from breaking someone’s heart are:

  1. Contacting the person to ask for forgiveness (however, when it comes to cheating, this might cause more pain and confusion than helping them to heal)
  2. Asking for forgiveness in your heart, but really truly feeling sorry about it first so you mean it

Check out my free guide for instructions on how to do these.

How do you feel about being cheated on? Do you think the cheater got his or her Karma yet? Do they ever try to blame you for their own actions? Do you think that your own Karma caused you to get cheated on? I’d love to hear your story so please share it in the comments. You never know who you might help by sharing your story.

How To End A Karmic Relationship


How can someone you thought was your soulmate turn out to be the worst person in your life? When relationships start like they were made in heaven but then go sour, this is a sign that they are Karmic relationships.

And when things go bad, you must be asking yourself, “How can I get out of this? How can I end this relationship?”

When it comes to Karmic relationships, it’s not about ending the relationship. It’s about ending the Karma. To end Karmic relationships, you have to pay back your Karmic debt to the other person and/or learn whatever lesson you were supposed to learn from that relationship. Once that’s done, you are free.

Do you want to end a Karmic relationship quickly? If yes, I have good news for you. Just look back at your relationship to see how you’ve already repaid your Karmic debt.

Have you had some hard times? Have you felt some pain and suffering in this relationship? Have you come to a big realization, for example, the fact that you are tired of being mistreated by your partner? Or that you will never let someone talk to you so disrespectfully again?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, the good news is that you have already started paying back your Karmic debt.

It’s not so easy to know when you’re almost finished paying back your Karmic debt because you don’t know just how much Karma you have with your partner. But there is one sign that will tell you that you’re almost at the end of this relationship.

When you start to genuinely pray for freedom from the relationship, you will know that you’re almost at the end. The more sincere your prayer is, the quicker it will happen. This is because when you sincerely pray from your heart, the Universe listens and creates more opportunities for the Karma to get burnt away.

Once all the Karma between you two is burned away, you both can be free from the relationship.

I’ll talk about the top 3 proven ways to burn Karma super fast that have worked for me further down in this post. First, let me share some more direct ways to take control of a relationship that is hurting you.

Power Phrases To Use To End Painful Karmic Relationships

Let me assume that you want to end a relationship because it’s causing you pain. And you know it’s Karmic because the other person in the relationship is a family member, your romantic partner, a difficult boss, or an old friend.

Enough!

When you someone you’re in a relationship with hurts you consciously or unconsciously and you realize what’s happening, you have to say out loud and with force: “Enough!”

Let me give you an example. Once, my husband and I were fighting about my spending habits. He thought I spent too much money on chocolate (true story). This was probably his worry about our financial situation at the time but regardless of the reason, we had spent more than 15 minutes discussing this and arguing about this. Finally, I just had to say, “Enough! I am responsible for my spending habits, not you. Stop lecturing me about this right now.”

The force of my statement made him go quiet. He realized that he had crossed the line and we stopped talking. After an hour or so, he came with a pack of Malteasers that he went out and bought for me and said sorry.

“Stop now!”

When you don’t like how someone is treating you or the way someone is talking to you and you want it to stop it right away, you need to say this with force: “Stop now!”

Say it as soon into the conversation as you can.

As soon as you realize that the other person is attacking you or picking on you, say “Stop now!” with force. You won’t even need to explain yourself because it will shake them into understanding that they were being mean to you.

Some people react in a petty defensive way when you stand up for yourself like this by starting to cry or pretend that you attacked them unfairly. Don’t let this stop you from using this power phrase.

For example, kids do this all the time. When they get yelled at for doing something naughty, they pretend that they are the victim and start to cry. But they also intuitively know that they did something wrong and got called out for it. After crying for a little while, they’ll calm down and go back to normal.

When your partner is speaking to you in a way that you don’t like, tell them to stop. If this scares you, pretend you are telling a kid off for doing something he or she isn’t supposed to do.

Power Phrase: “You Are Not Allowed To Treat Me That Way!”

Sometimes people think that they are allowed to mistreat others and hurt them. They think that this is normal. In these cases you must remind them that they are not allowed to treat you that way.

When someone you’re in a relationship with hurts you unfairly or without a legitimate reason, say to them with force: “You are not allowed to treat me that way.”

If they persist, then make a stronger statement and say: “You WILL NOT treat me that way!”

You are the one who decides how you will be treated in a loving relationship. Demand the respect that you want. Set the tone of how you want to be spoken to.

There is always a power game in relationships, and this is especially true in Karmic relationships. It shouldn’t be about having power over your partner or overpowering them when it comes to making decisions. It should be about EM-powering yourself and taking control of how you are treated in the relationship.

When you start to use power phrases like this with your partner, you are creating more opportunities for the Karma between you to finish.

By taking your power in a relationship back, you are taking responsibility for your Karma and becoming stronger in the process.

This causes a chain reaction and if your Karmic relationship is supposed to end, it will end even sooner. If it is meant to be healed, your Karmic relationship will be healed sooner.

The Best Thing To Resolve Conflict In A Karmic Relationship That No One Ever Does

Anytime someone attacks you emotionally, or even physically, it is more about them than you. This is particularly true in romantic relationships.

For example, your boyfriend got yelled at by his boss at work and he started a fight with you as soon as he got home. Or your wife had a fight with her mom and started nitpicking on your and criticizing you unfairly. Or you are worried about your money situation and you start picking on your wife for her spending habits.

You may not know what the underlying reason for your partner’s hurtful behaviour toward you is and you are not responsible to fix it. But you are allowed to say this power phrase to your partner:

“If you are angry and sad about something, do something about it! Don’t take it out on me. I don’t deserve that.”

This comes back to the power struggle in every relationship. When you say this to your partner, you empower him or her to take their power back from whatever negative experience they had. When they realize that they have the power over how to react to their own negative experience, they won’t feel the need to take it out on you.

When you help them realize that something else is hurting them, then they realize that they need to process that pain. By doing this, you are making sure that they don’t turn you into a punching bag to release their emotions.

Bonus power phrase: “I love you but that does not give you the right to be mean to me.”

This phrase bring back the memory of Eminem’s song “Love The Way You Lie”, at least the music video.

This is the kind of relationship you don’t want to have. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you will tolerate being disrespected and being hurt. Loving someone doesn’t mean giving them the right to walk all over you.

When you can tell that your partner is crossing the line and hurting you unnecessarily, call them out on it. Say to them with power in your voice and strength in your eyes: “I love you but that does not give you the right to be mean to me.”

They will stop dead in their tracks because of one thing. You just placed a mirror in front of them and showed them that they are simply being mean to you. If they care about you, then they will stop right away after they see this.

How To End A Karmic Relationship By Burning Your Karma Fast

As I mentioned above, it’s about ending the Karma and not the relationship. It’s possible that a “toxic” relationship becomes harmonious again after all the bad Karma is burned off.

It is also possible that a relationship ends very easily and peacefully after the Karma between both people is finished.

I’ll say it again: It’s about ending the Karma, not the relationship.

How do you finish all your Karma with somebody so you can quickly end the relationship? These are my top 3 ways to burn through Karma quickly.

Live Life Fully

Dive into life and embrace all new experiences. Try to enjoy the little things in life with your partner despite the fact that you are having difficulties in your relationship.

The more cool experiences you share together, the more opportunities you will have for working out your Karma together. If they are pleasant experiences, then you will see that there is still love and hope in the relationship. If they are bad experiences, then you will know that it’s time to walk away.

It is just as important to have unique experiences on your own. You need time to yourself, away from your partner, to process how you feel about your partner. When you’re away from him, do you miss him? Are you happy to be on your own and are wishing that you didn’t have to see him later? Or are you happy alone but still looking forward to being together again?

You wouldn’t get a chance to feel these feelings if you are together 24/7. Take some time apart to let your true feelings come to the surface.

Don’t Avoid Confrontation

If you’re like me, you hate confrontation. I’d rather be on the losing end of a deal than get into a difficult negotiation.

When it comes to relationships though, you can’t avoid confrontation because it will just keep eating at you from the inside.

Until you share with your partner how he hurt you, the pain will keep spreading inside you like acid and burning you from the inside. It will turn toxic and you’ll hurt yourself and your partner way more than if you just shared with him what’s bothering you right away.

You also have to be willing to listen to your partner when he tells you that you have hurt him. It goes both ways.

Yes, it’s embarrassing to realize that you’ve hurt your partner deeply. But you won’t be able to heal your relationship if you are completely unaware of how you are damaging it.

Burn Karma Through Meditation

The one place where I learn most about myself is when I’m sitting down to meditate. This whole blog started because I finally learned to meditate. It also helped me to get out of the biggest depression I went through in my mid-twenties.

It’s a fact that meditation, specifically certain kinds of meditation like Atma Kriya Yoga burn your Karma. How does it do that? Well, there’s the fact that you are sitting in silence and finally looking at yourself.

When you examine yourself and your experiences, you can learn from it. The more you learn, the more Karma gets burned away, and the closer you get to becoming free.

Take my free 5-day meditation class to get started with a strong and effective meditation practice that will help you burn your Karma and end your Karmic Relationships.

How Did You End Your Karmic Relationship?

Now I want to hear from you. Have you ever had to end a Karmic Relationship? How did you do it? Is there something you can share in the comments that will help the next reader?

Do you have any questions about how your Karma is affected after breaking someone’s heart? Or have you wondered whether Karma will get your ex back for breaking your heart? I’d love to know so comment below.

Karma in Romantic Relationships


Have you ever been through a breakup and are you worried that you will get bad karma for breaking someone’s heart? No matter how you feel about your breakup and the relationship you had before it broke up, let me tell you something. Your relationships create Karma. All relationships create Karma. There is a very good chance that you are with the person you are with now (or were with last) because of some Karma that you had to work out with him.

I can only speak from experience and I share my real-life example of how Karma works in relationships below the next section, so keep reading.

Is Karma Real In Relationships?

Karma is real and a huge factor in all romantic relationships as well as in work relationships, relationships within the family, and also with friends. You are with the person you are with because of the Karma that you have to work out with each other. Once the bad Karma is worked out, you’ll either part ways or have peace and harmony in your relationship. The same goes for family, friends, and work relationships.

If you’re wondering whether cheaters get their Karma, the answer is yes, they do. The most common ways that cheaters pay for their Karma is outlined in this post. Even if you’re the one who cheated, you will have to pay for your Karma.

Real Example Of How Karma Works In Relationships

I summarize my personal story in this video.

So, I once dated a guy. He was a really good guy and I loved him a lot. It was the kind of love that cracked my heart open and it was the first time that my love for another human being brought me to tears. But then, I grew older and wanted new experiences and wanted to hang out with new people so I broke that good guy’s heart and we parted ways.

Thanks to Karma, 10 years later he is back in my life but it’s not really him. This time, I AM him. And someone else is doing to me all the things that I did to him long ago.

That’s how Karma works. It gives you a chance to square up for everything you have done to others by enduring the same treatment yourself.

Is Karma Real In Love?

Karma is real in love and also in heartbreak. When you break someone’s heart, you create a lot of Karma. When you are irresistibly attracted to someone, like love at first sight, it is because of the Karmic attraction you have for each other. Karma is also real in non-romantic love relationships, like with best friends, friends at work, family members, and in-laws.

The good news is that you can work out your Karma very fast because we’re in Kali Yuga at the moment.

Karma in Kali Age

According to the Vedic scriptures and the yoga tradition, we are in Kali Yuga at the moment. Yuga means age, and Kali is the age that is charactarized by time being sped up, human lives being shorter and a lot more things happening in a lot less time. I think this applies to our Karma as well. Instead of doing someone wrong and not having to pay for it till your next life or next incarnation, in this age, you pay in one lifetime for most things.

In the case of the really nice guy who I hurt 10 years ago, I had the chance to experience what I put him through by being put in his shoes. And the thing is, I have been in the “heartbreaker’s” shoes as well, and I can’t even be angry at that person. I know that there is no other way.

There was no other way for me to have behaved back then and that’s why when it happened to me, I had to sit back and observe the identical situation from the flip side.

When you finally stop dating the same guy over and over again, you end up dating yourself.

A former version of you turns up in your life for you to learn a lesson from. I suppose it’s kind of like when you become a parent and finally realize how much of a brat you were to your mom and dad. Karma in relationships allows that to happen a little sooner.

Is Karma A Real Thing In My Relationships?

Still not sure whether Karma is real in your relationships? Here are my top resources that will show you exactly how all your relationships are affected by your good and bad Karma. You’ll also learn how to get rid of your bad Karma, create good Karma, and heal your relationships.

  • The best book on Karma you’ll ever read – Karmic Diagnostics by Marjan Ogorevc
    • This book changed my whole understanding of how Karma works in our day-to-day lives. It will tell you how Karma is responsible for your constant heartbreaks, why you can’t find the right partner, why you are having problems in your family relationships, and what to do about it. I can’t recommend this book enough but it has a very limited print run. Grab a copy for yourself before it’s sold out.
  • Karma when it comes to having kids and starting a family – Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen
    • When you’re in a true love relationship, the idea of getting married and having kids is the first thought on your mind. Your Karma, as well as the Karma of your partner and future child, might be stopping you (or him) from committing and also from wanting to have kids or having problems with getting pregnant. This book will help you understand if your partner is really the one you should have a baby with. It will also help you understand your spiritual and Karmic connection with your future baby.
  • How to end Karmic relationships
    • When a relationship is only causing you pain, it is time to end it without creating even more Karma. In this post, I tell you the exact steps that you can take to end a Karmic love relationship easily.

How to deal with Karma For Breaking Someone’s Heart

I wrote a whole post about this but in short, my advice here is not to freak out. You may feel like a mean, old version of you has turned up to hurt and get even with the current version you. I don’t believe it’s about Karma getting even with you. I believe that it is simply a way for you to find empathy for the one you hurt before. It is simply to feel love for them, feel their pain and most importantly, to love yourself anyway despite what you have done in the past.

Love yourself anyway.

Your actions in the past were inevitable. Those actions were destined. Just be at peace with what you did in the past no matter how many hearts you broke. You have probably experienced, first hand, what it felt like to those people when their hearts were broken. If you haven’t, you probably will soon.

Just accept it.

Just love, yourself, anyway.

If you don’t know how, start with treating yourself to a manicure. And meditation always helps when you want a more lasting kind of self-love.

With my love and acceptance,

Ritu

Image source: Another Odd Place for a Hill and Unsplash

Originally published April 22, 2015. Updated May 22, 2020.

Will Karma Get My Ex For Hurting Me?


If you’ve ever been dumped before then this question must have crossed your mind: “Will Karma get my ex for hurting me?” I have asked this countless times after getting dumped in High School and then again in my early twenties.

Now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I can tell you this from first-hand experience: Yes! Karma will most definitely get your ex back for what he or she did to you. How do I know this? Because I’ve LIVED through it – both as a dumpee and as a dumper.

Karma will make sure that your ex understands just how badly they hurt you because they will be hurt in the exact same way. If they left you for someone else, their next partner will leave them for someone else. If they cheated on you, they will get cheated on. That’s simply how Karma works.

Every book on Karma will tell you this: every single action someone takes, creates Karma. Good actions create good Karma (or Punya) and bad actions create bad Karma.

But wait! I’m not just regurgitating book knowledge. I’m telling you that this is 100% true because it is what I’ve experienced first hand on many separate occasions in my life. I share my personal stories below so read on.

Will Karma Get Him For Breaking My Heart?

When your ex dumped you and hurt you, he or she created a lot of Karma that they will have to pay for. Their Karma and their action will come back around and hurt them in the exact same way they hurt you when they dumped you.

So, YES. Karma will get your ex for breaking your heart.

Karma will get your ex so hard that they won’t know what hit them. But eventually, when they’ve suffered enough in the hands of someone else, something will click in their brain. They will finally realize they are getting back all the pain and suffering that they gave to you so long ago.

I’ll share a true story from my life about how Karma got my ex back at the end of this post, so keep reading.

Will My Ex Feel Bad For Hurting Me?

You can bet that your ex will feel bad for hurting you.

And if he or she doesn’t? Don’t worry. Karma will make sure they keep suffering until they realize what they did to you and feel sorry about it.

The thing is though that Karma works on a different timeline than what we are used to. It can take years, decades, or even lifetimes for someone to learn their lesson.

If someone doesn’t learn their lesson or pay for the bad Karma they created in this life, then they will learn it in their next life. They will never be free until they’ve learned their lesson.

Not only is it necessary that your ex feel bad for hurting you, but they must also truly feel sorry about it. Otherwise, they will never heal.

Even though Karma has its own timing and I said that it can take lifetimes until your ex will learn their lesson, it can also happen incredibly fast.

According to Yoga and Hindu philosophy, we are in the Kali Yuga (Kali Age) right now and in this time period, time is sped up. Karma in Kali Age and specifically how Karma works in romantic relationships in much faster.

Here’s the good news. Because it is Kali Age, when your ex breaks your heart, they will have to pay for this Karma in this lifetime. Even if they are 90 years old when they learn their lesson, Kali Yug will make sure they learn it.

How Do I Get Revenge On My Ex?

It’s completely natural that after you’ve been hurt, you want to hurt your ex back. Sometimes it’s not enough to leave it in Karma’s hands. Sometimes you might want to take it into your own hands and get revenge on your ex.

But here’s why shouldn’t. Not only are you lowering yourself to the level of your horrible ex, but you are also interfering with Karma. Be patient and let Karma do its thing.

If you try to take things into your own hands and get revenge on your ex, you’ll be creating so much bad Karma for yourself that you’ll be paying for it for lifetimes.

How Do You Respond To An Ex Who Broke Your Heart?

There’s nothing that can throw you off your balance than when your ex contacts you.

When your ex who broke your heart messages you out of the blue and wants to be in touch again, just wait. How you respond should be different based on what they say.

If they messaged you to say sorry, pause before you write back. Close your eyes and meditate for a minute. What do you feel in your gut? Is this real or just an excuse to weasel back into your life and vampire on your emotions?

Here’s a short video with a simple meditation that might help you to figure out how to respond to your ex when they contact you out of the blue.

Let your intuition tell you what their true intention is. If you feel that they are truly sorry, then write back and say, “Thanks for writing to me and for saying sorry. I appreciate it. Stay well.”

Keep it short and end the conversation.

Can Ex-Lovers Be Friends?

Can you be friends with your ex? Let me put it in one word.

NO.

Absolutely not.

Just don’t do it.

It will never be non-sexual or non-emotional with an ex. You have a history together and you will never be able to pretend that nothing happened between you two. You know things about each other that no one else does. It’s simply too intimate to be just friends.

Even when couples have a mutual breakup, it is never neutral afterwards. One person always desires the other a little more. One person is always sadder about the breakup than the other person. The scales are never ever even again.

This is especially true when one person hurt the other one.

You can try to make it work as friends but don’t be surprised when things get complicated or awkward. You might be setting yourself up for more heartache in the future if you choose to be friends with an ex who hurt you.

People don’t change. If your ex hurt you before, there is a 99% chance that they will hurt you again.

If your ex wants to be friends, just tell them that you have moved on and even though you appreciate the offer, it’s just not going to work for you and you don’t want to be friends.

How Karma Got My Ex Back (True Story)

In my early twenties, I was in a relationship with a guy who was about 10 years older than me. It’s not a huge age gap when someone who is 33 is dating someone who is 43. When a 23-year-old is dating a 33-year old, however, it’s a whole different level.

The older guy was obviously much more established in his career than me. In fact, I had just started working in my first real job. He was so successful at his job and quite rich, or at least that’s the impression he was trying to give everyone with his BMW convertible and fancy loft apartment.

But he didn’t impress me with his money. He knew the secret trick to get a young, slightly insecure girl to like him – just by being nice to her.

He was so nice to me and he was kind. He’d check in on how I was doing with multiple chat messages a day. He’d offer to grab me lunch 2-3 times a week, even if it was a simple sandwich from the corner store.

He made me feel that he was concerned for me and I fell for him.

I’m sure I gave away quite obviously that I liked him and he simply loved being admired.

One day we were out on the beach with a group of friends and obviously because I was in my bathing suit, he finally took notice of me. I hate to say it so crassly, but it’s true. That day, he finally made a move and kissed me.

I was so happy, you can’t imagine it. I was like a little girl who finally got her prince charming. But I was a little bit shocked and sad because he had kissed me when no one else was around and as we made plans to meet later on, it was obvious that he didn’t want anyone to know that we were going to see each other.

Even though I realized that we would have to date in secret, I accepted it because it still felt too good to be true. How could such a gorgeous, successful and older guy like someone as simple, young, and naive as me?

But little did I know, that’s exactly why he wanted me. Because I was so naive.

We dated for 2-3 months until my intuition started dropping clues to me that something was off with this guy.

I had a dream that he was with another mutual friend who also happened to be a lot younger than him. Almost a year later I found out that he had indeed been seeing her at the same time as he was seeing me.

Your intuition is a powerful thing so keep flexing that muscle with meditation.

Once I started getting the feeling that something was off, he must have sensed it because he started distancing himself and eventually broke it off with me.

Here’s how Karma got him back.

In a weird trick of time, it actually happened partially before he was ever with me.

I found out that his ex had left him in a really messy way and there was a child involved.

He also got what he deserved because his best female friend also dumped him later. If you’ve ever had to break up with a friend, you know how painful it is.

It’s been almost 15 years since this happened and as far as I know, he’s still single. I’m not sure because I don’t keep in touch with him anymore. It’s better that way.

I’m sure he’s been cheated on in the meantime and been forced to be in a secret relationship. Everything that he did to me has been done to him – by Karma.

How About You?

So what brought you here to be reading this right now? Were you hurt by an ex and you’re hoping against hope that they will feel a fraction of the pain that they put you through?

Are you thinking about how you could get revenge on your ex? Has your ex contacted you lately? Do you think they feel bad about hurting you? Do they want your forgiveness? Do they want to be friends again?

And what do you want? Would you take them back as a friend? Or even as a lover? Can you forgive them for hurting you?

I’d love to know, so tell me your story in the comments.

You can help another reader by sharing your advice and your questions, so I hope you’ll share.

If you know someone who has been hurt in a relationship, please share this post with them. You could be helping ease someone deep pain.

Karmic Attraction: Everything You Need To Know


When I was thinking about all the relationships I’ve had in the past, I wondered whether the particularly crazy, intense ones happened because of Karmic attraction. So I did some research and looked back and examined five of my craziest relationships to find out the answer.

So, what is Karmic attraction? Karmic attraction is when you are uncontrollably physically and/or emotionally attracted to someone without any apparent reason. The real reason is your Karmic history with each other which is still hidden from you.

You were probably lovers in a past life or desired each other in a past life. Now you have Karma to finish with each other and that’s why the Universe is bringing you together again with Karmic attraction.

What is Karmic Attraction?

Some call it love at first sight and some call it that spark that often leads to a one night stand but often turns into a relationship.

Karmic attraction is extremely hard to ignore and your will power is pretty much useless when you try to suppress your karmic attraction towards someone. If you try to ignore it, then the person you feel this attraction towards starts popping up in your dreams, on your social feeds, and you start mistaking strangers for them on the street.

It’s like an invasion of your brain!

How to tell if you are Karmically attracted to someone?

Let’s get serious for a second though. There are some obvious signs that the attraction you are feeling towards someone is Karmic.

The number one sign that it is Karmic attraction is that the attraction is instant.

For instance, you spot each other across the dance floor and you can’t take your eyes off each other. You find yourself moving towards each other shyly and standing really close but not yet talking. But it feels good to stand near each other in silence even though you are still strangers.

Or you are walking down the aisle at your church or temple trying to find a good seat and suddenly someone looks up at you and your make eye-contact.

It’s like an electric shock just ran through your entire body and you are tingling all over (I mean like all over) and you are completely flustered. This is the last person you’d think would give you such a feeling and worst of all, in church or in temple!? Oh my.

Karmic Attraction intensifies over time

The second sign that this is Karmic attraction is that the attraction intensifies more and more with time.

Let’s say that the person you’re attracted to is a coworker or your boss. You know you shouldn’t go there but you just can’t help it.

You think about that person constantly, peep over your computer screen to sneak a peek at him or her, and find yourself timing when you take your coffee break in case you spot him or her in the kitchen.

Even though you don’t act on it, you start smiling at that person more and more, laughing at almost everything they say, and going out of the way to be nice to them.

The third sign of Karmic attraction is purer in a sense. It is when the other person feels they could be a part of your family.

If the person you are feeling a sudden attraction to feels so familiar that you can be super comfortable in the presence of each other then this is a Karmic connection.

You can truly be yourself. You don’t have to pretend or try to act cool. You can be vulnerable with each other and let your guard down.

You might even find yourself saying “I love you” to this person without realizing that you’re saying it because the feeling is coming from deep within your heart.

How to tell if someone is Karmically attracted to you?

Now that you know you are Karmically attracted to someone, you want to be sure that he or she feels the same way about you.

The most obvious sign to tell if someone is feeling Karmic attraction towards you is that the instant attraction I mentioned above is mutual.

The second sign is that it feels very familiar to be with each other and the other person obviously feels the same way.

The third sign shows itself with time when the attraction intensifies as time goes on even when both of you try to suppress it.

This shows that there is something bigger in play here than just the two of you, which is your Karmic history with each other.

Even if you try to resist, the Karmic attraction will make sure you enter some kind of relationship with each other so you can finish your Karma with each other.

This could be as short as a one-night stand, a friends-with-benefits situation, a 5-year long relationship, a marriage or an affair.

A personal story about Karmic attraction

I’ll share a personal story of how I entered into a fun but ultimately painful relationship because of Karmic attraction.

I met this guy, let’s call him Nick, in my last year of University. At the time, he had a huge crush on my best friend so even though I thought he was interesting, I didn’t think of him in that way at all. A few months later, I ended up dating his best friend and we all started hanging out together in one big friend circle.

After University, we saw each other now and again because of our shared social circles. My best friend was dating someone new and I was still in a relationship with Nick’s friend.

It became obvious though that Nick was attracted to me and to my surprise, I was attracted to him too. This was difficult for me since I was still in a relationship at the time.

We kept our distance physically but often found ourselves deep in conversation which made everyone around us feel quite uncomfortable. We all made a bigger effort that we wouldn’t all hang out together again.

A few years later, I bumped into Nick again near my workplace. I was now single and so was he. Our unexplainable attraction brought us together this time. The situation was still delicate since I had dated his best friend and he had wanted to date mine in the past, but we started seeing each other.

We couldn’t help ourselves and ended up dating in secret for a few months. It wasn’t a real boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, and I’m pretty sure that he was seeing other girls at the same time, we had a beautiful time together.

How Karmic attraction often ends…

The end of our relationship was less than perfect though. In fact, it was downright painful.

How karmic attraction ends

Towards the end, it started to feel like I was pouring all my love from my heart out to him, and not getting a single drop of love back. It was creating a big black hole in my heart that was just bleeding out love without being replenished.

Our relationship wasn’t ever official, but that didn’t stop me from deeply caring about him.

I still wonder sometimes whether he couldn’t give me back any love because he didn’t feel love towards himself. But that’s probably just me making excuses for his behaviour.

Looking back, now I know that it was a Karmic attraction between us because of how it started and how it ended. Our history from past lives was so intertwined that in this life we also got entangled with each other.

Maybe in a past life, I didn’t love him back the way he loved me. So in this life, that’s the treatment I got from him.

Or maybe the lesson I needed to learn was that it’s not OK to pour out your love and caring for someone and not receive anything in return. I needed to learn how to say, “No. That’s enough. I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who just takes, takes, and takes, and gives nothing back in return.”

In the end, I was hurting so bad that I had to cut him out of my life entirely. In fact, I made a video about it a couple of months after we ended things, which explains how I ended our relationship. Skip to the 1:35 min mark.

Is Karmic attraction good or bad?

Often people often think that Karmic attraction is automatically connected to sexual attraction, but this is not always the case. There can be Karmic attraction that leads to a platonic relationship as well.

Another area where Karmic attraction can bring two people together is in Karmic friendships. Any relationship where people become entangled in each other’s lives is a Karmic relationship. Karmic attraction often brings the people together so they can work repay their Karmic debt to each other.

So, is Karmic attraction good or bad?

It is neither good nor bad. It is inevitable.

If you have a Karmic debt towards someone, life and the Universe will bring you together through whatever means it can so that you can repay your debt and be free.

Have you ever felt Karmic attraction towards someone? How did it start? And how did it end? Let me know in the comments.